Ouch

Feelings are fickle.

What I mean by that is that you can’t trust your feelings.

We all have feelings and they have a purpose.

We have to control our feelings and not allow our feelings to control us.

One thing that I’ve learned in recent weeks is that I have a choice not just in how I respond, not react, but respond to people who may or may not treat me the way I would  like to be treated, and that I can actually control that self talk.

You know the “who does she think she is?” or “why is it OK to talk to me that way?” and”how do you expect somebody to respond to such a dismissive approach?” “why doesn’t the golden rule seem to work for me when I apply it to others?”

Self talk can be destructive.Self talk can also be a good thing.

I’m learning to counter those destructive words with the Word of God. In my thoughts AND my words.

Ever  since I can remember,  I’ve been a kind and tenderhearted person throughout my lifetime. Most likely because I gave my life to Jesus when I was 4 years old.He truly changed my heart as a little girl.

That didn’t keep me from making bad choices. I jumped on the bandwagon of those who were making fun of others.

It was incredibly sad.

I remember hiding when the teacher came looking for me on the bus after I made fun of the girl whose parents didn’t or couldn’t bathe her.

The pre-school teacher would wash her hair in the bathroom sink at the private Christian school we attended.

(The only reason I know this is because I had to use the bathroom when her hair was being washed by our teacher in the sink.)

I look back on those hurtful memories and I can’t believe I ever said or did things that were so harmful, verbally and emotinally to another human being.

I have prayed that those memories would be ereased from the minds of those who had their feelings hurt by my thoughtless words and insensetive actions.

I can’t change the past but I can change the future based on how I choose act and what I say today.

Choices are little seeds that we plant every time we make a good or a bad one.

Let’s all try to plant seeds of kindness wherever we go today.

We can start with just one.



Be kind one to another, tenderhearted forgiving one another, even as God for Christ sake has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32